update.
new video card i got: ASUS Phoenix NVIDIA GeForce RTX 3060 V2 Gaming Graphics Card (PCIe 4.0, 12GB GDDR6, HDMI 2.1, DisplayPort 1.4a, Axial-tech Fan Design, Protective Backplate, Dual Ball Fan Bearings, Auto-Extreme) PH-RTX3060-12G-V2
new motherboard with video card: ASUS TUF Gaming Z590-Plus WiFi 6, LGA 1200 (Intel 11th/10th Gen) ATX Gaming Motherboard (PCIe 4.0, 3 x M.2/NVMe SSD, 14+2 Power Stages, USB 3.2 Gen 1 Front Panel Type-C, 2.5Gb LAN, Thunderbolt 4 Support, Aura RGB Lighting)
was a bundle on newegg.