I had to use mame64.exe -verbose to work out which monitor I needed:
O:\Games\mame>mame64.exe -verbose
Attempting load of mame.ini
Parsing mame.ini
Attempting load of mame.ini
Parsing mame.ini
Starting plugin data...
Attempting load of mame.ini
Parsing mame.ini
Attempting load of mame.ini
Parsing mame.ini
Video: Monitor 65539 = "\\.\DISPLAY4"
Video: Monitor 65537 = "\\.\DISPLAY5" (primary)
Direct3D: Using Direct3D 9
Physical width 1600, height 1200
Direct3D: Initialize
Direct3D: Configuring adapter #1 = NVIDIA GeForce GTX 1060 6GB
Direct3D: Using dynamic textures
Direct3D: YUV format = RGB
Direct3D: Max texture size = 16384x16384
Direct3D: Device created at 1600x1200
Direct3D: Initialize HLSL
RawInput: APIs detected
RawInput: APIs detected
RawInput: APIs detected