thank you all , i got it all sorted out, nearvanaman nudge me in the right direction with a better rom set and i had to change 2 setting in the core settings.
i had to turn off the following because they were on by default:
"use whdload.hdf" and "use whdload.prefs"
also change the system from auto to a1200 (2mb chip + 8mb Fast).
I Grabbed the rom hdf set from ransom (which is on back-ups) created a HDF from RetroPlay's WHDLOAD collection - and it has the Kickstarts built in.